Pleasure, Pain…Emotion, Logic

I hope that Judge Judy had a nice birthday yesterday!  I’ve never watched her show, yet her followers number more than mine :).  Her calendar years “DQ” her from being a bonafide KABOOMER, as she is now 78, like a former VP that is in the limelight these days.  So, today is Day # 296 of 2020 AD, with a mere 10 weeks to go until this abnormal leap year is over. In the traditional Chinese Zodiac, 2020 is the                     Year of the Rat…Hmmm.If my calculator is accurate, 1/12th or about 8% of our world population had this abnormal, unlucky year if tradition is correct. Note to self, try wearing red underpinnings in my unlucky year ?!

We sorta know that bodily or mental PAIN is a penalty, while Pleasure is a “windfall” gain.  Isn’t life a bit strange in this regard, as for Rat Year fortunes, that humans tend to AVOID PAIN as opposed to seeking PLEASURABLE GAIN?

So here is a KABOOMER KOACH and blogger (born in a Year of the Snake, incidentally) who is bucking human nature…

And, I implore you to seek pleasure and gain in childlike ways of rather than avoiding pain, senescence, and sarcopenia as losses.

I commend to you THE ATHLETES WAY by Christopher Bergland who eloquently writes about his personal “BIOLOGY OF BLISS.”  If you don’t have time to read THE ATHLETE’s WAY, – SPOILER ALERT!  A big element in his generated BLISS is S W E A T. Yup!

Part of a KABOOMERs success is attributed to control of things that are controllable while coping as best as possible with factors that are beyond her or his control or influence. Here we are, a fortnight before the first Tuesday after the first Monday in an election year. Some of my family members and clients are bummed, to state the least, about matters that are uncontrollably UNblissful. I do sense and feel some of their angst and pain.  And I am parenthetically rooting (not voting often) for my Sister who is running for Vermont’s lone Congressional seat.  Go, Girl! I celebrate her extraness as a real underdog.

What am I doing in a quixotic quest for bliss?

Credit: Giphy.com

I hum, laugh often, and skip current screen versions of “News” unless Ron Burgundy or a SaturdayNight Live actor is the anchor, that is. I’ll listen to the Capitol Steps rather than talking heads on Sunday mornings. Here’s a MOCK in Democracy listen fer ‘ya…

I move to Sweat 6 days a week.  Ahhh, that’s a pleasure for me!

I draw a warm bath with Epsom salts to let cares drift away. More pleasure and gain!

I walk in the grass – barefoot. I soak in my 20 minutes of el sol for my critical Vitamin D as a healthy immunity booster.

I truly take steps to get an average of 7 hours of restorative sleep each night, every night. NO takeaway or loss here (except for “DAYLIGHT SAVINGS time that is).

I talk to our kids and grandkids whenever possible.

I ask What would Abe Lincoln do?  Anything I face is a tiny SUCK to embrace compared to what he faced in leading a house divided!

With my felicity of age, I can subjectively state that 2020 is MUCH better than 1968 was!

I do try to live a Platinum Rule in which I try to treat another person as she or he wishes to be treated.

Though stubborn, I do try to listen these days more than I speak. Mom was right about my two ears, even with tinnitus rings, being superior to one mouth. She was also right when she reminded me that I could be wrong about something.

In my speechwriter days, I wrote an executive’s speech for a Navy SEAL graduation.  It was hard to skip penning: “the only easy day was yesterday.” And I really wanted to ghostwrite how important it was to make one’s bed. Admiral McRaven beat me to that legendary highlight 🙂

I DO try to give my bride and myself a hug every morning and do a GOOD morning stretch.

In a Vermonter’s terse way of celebration, I, like Robert Frost, can share that

“HAPPINESS makes in Height what it lacks in Length.”

Look up to the Happy Heights!

Be happy…seek the pleasures of a sustainable physical 401K…think Platinum… Don’t let any Bastards get you down.

Credit: Giphy.com

KABOOM,

Koach Dave

KABOOMERs: Coping Skills for What’s Eating Them

In any epoch, your life can get zany to the point of wanting to launch 
a Munch scream

Munch: The SCREAM British Museum Blog

Credit E. Munch:  The Scream British.Museum.Blog

I bet a tuppence [not the VP type of Pence] that our extended COVID and Presidential election 
epochs are maddening for you to a Nth degree.

What is a KABOOMER to Do?  How can she or he Cope?

=> Go on the Offensive

Coping Step 1: Start with a personal, candid subjective check of your current stressors and 
environment.  One solid way is to take this quiz, then adapt or adjust as you can.

Here are three more checks, as offered in KABOOMER: Chapter 6
www.stress.org/self-assessment/
A Personal Well-Being Survey: www.heartmath.org/resources/personal-well-being-survey This online Survey has 25 questions and only requires4-5 minutes to complete. I don’t want you to stress-out on this—just take it.
And try this Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Inventory. Your free limited-use template is located at www.familyofmen.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/stress_scale.pdf.
What are bumming big deals and stressors for us?

At the top of our 2020 list is loss of a loved one or loss of your livelihood.

And, home-schooling of kids in two-career families in COVID can make parents scream too!


Coping Step 2: Know your internal adversary - You likely know some simple yet very hard theories of de-stressing and keepin’ on when factors beyond your control can really get you down.

Let us refresh on the definition of our coping adversary - STRESS:

“a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.”

Coping Step 3: See or Feel Something…Do Something!

   I beg to differ slightly with folks, like author Austin Bay,  who suggest that you Embrace the SUCK – meaning that life can be and often is adverse or demanding, so deal with it.

Granted, life is hard. Isn’t avoiding or mitigating the SUCK superior to embracing it?

 Don’t get me wrong. Countering evil triggers and disease-related Chronic Stress is by no means as easy as 1-2-3.

Our Viable Stress Counters include: 
  1. Walks by Golden Pond – bonding with Mother Earth can promote Serenity and help you compartmentalize stressors.
- Hug a Tree instead of booting Fido when frustrated.
  1. Exercise (go ahead and scream at that punching bag or hoot at the end of a weightlifting set
  2. Eat an anti-inflammatory diet and try to limit alcohol – particularly post-dinner hour.
 - Don’t let what you eat contribute to what’s eating you!
  1. Adapt some type of mindful breathing and body flow exercise – perhaps YOGA or Qi Gong
De-stress with mindful YogaCredit: 15_vector_STRESS Not_Puzzle pieces_Fiverr
  1. Do not suffer in silence.
- You have a friend who can help you Chill or work through a SUCKy incident!
  1. Mimic Morpheus with restorative slumber. This is a TOP Priority.
 A KABOOMER’s summary offense/defense/special team pictorial can be viewed @:
15_vector_STRESS Not_Puzzle pieces_Fiverr

If we think of Coping Saws which, with skillful use, adjust and adapt to changing carpentry surfaces, 

we might see a metaphor for adjusting to adverse triggers which face us.

What does this KABOOMER do to Cope?  

Well, the classic UP ON THE ROOF song by James Taylor helped me get through demerits and restriction at the Naval Academy.

 Lord knows I’ve played that ballad and hummed it (recalling that humming is good for our Vagus nerve) too many times to count in 2020.   

I stay away from nightcaps, move to sweat, and try to please my Gut.  A little solitude and even worship has worked, too!

I do my best to sense and respond, or get more than a gentle prompt from my Bride if I appear hassled.


Now, recall, from KABOOMER what Hans Selye asserted about Stress
[whether triggers are from Fight, Flight, adverse temperatures, the Suck, Friction or Pandemic
Toxins]:

“Stress doesn’t kill you.  It’s your reaction to it.”

Hans Selye

This theoretical Doctor of Stress promoted a three-step framework, a Classical GAS, so to speak,

to depict human reactions to chronic, non-specific or Fight/Flight stressors of life:
  1. Alarm Reaction
  2. Bodily Resistance
  3. Exhaustion.
How we react or adapt to a mental, and/or physical stressor

is predicated on many, many hormonally-triggered secretions and results.

Clearly, we wish to minimize chronic exhaustion if we can.

When merited, Defense is superior to Disease as an after effect, if our many Sense and Respond signals are working for us, rather than against us.

And, our Defenses need to be body-wide. 

We MUST manage Stress to keep it from chronic drip, drip, drip of elevated Cortisol which can lead to disease.

Go on the offensive, sidestep or rope-a-dope the SUCK.

Yes, you can!

Be well and try to be UNbeatable like this elder British gent,
UNDEFEATABLE ELDER

Koach Dave